The facts remain same only perception changes…

Everyday I go to gym. When instructor is not around then I take charge and give proper instructions to people if they ask. Since two days, I got little irritated by one fellow who come to Gym. I have been telling him the sequence of exercises but he waits for my inputs. My irritation was because I could not do my workout properly.
Today morning I asked him “why do not you come little late around 7am for workout so that the instructor will guide you.” He replied “Ma’m I have school at 8 o’clock”. By his reply I felt bad. That chap is in 10th std. His physical appearance deceived me. I thought that he must be working in a company. And my perception has changed, my behavior changed totally. And then I started explaining him the gym instruments and exercises. Because he is a kid, he needs guidance and support.
I wondered how the perception play role in human behavior.

The facts remain same only perception changes…

Human body loves routine…

I asked my friend to have lunch with us. He told me that I had heavy breakfast. He had four ‘Aloo parath’s’ one glass of milk, one hand full of cashew nuts and 10 pista, after his workout. I was surprisingly looking at him because he wants to put on weight which he lost few kgs in last few months.
Before you take any steps related to your health. First and foremost understands our body. What body needs, understand what it is saying? Its very true that we are having tight schedule, deadlines in office, house but body is not machine its human body which will react if we wont take care properly.
Our human body loves schedule. For example if we eat at particular time then it will ask for food at that time. If we sleep at particular time, our eyes will get that signal. Our body will be happy and stay long if we would provide what it requires at a particular point.
The saying goes like ‘Eat like a princess in the morning, Eat like a servant in the afternoon, Eat like a beggar in the night.’ The saying is very true but its better not to take things as it is. Heavy breakfast does not mean that we skip lunch or dinner.

Please do not skip lunch or dinner just for the sake of lose or gain weight. Always remind your self that body loves routine then only it will act else it will react.

Am I deserved for this meal?

When I was in 9^th Std I had one thought if I will not help my grandmother at home then I will not deserve the meal. I do not know who taught me this but it became routine for me. And now it becomes habit.

Two days back I was damn tired and did not feel working anymore.

• Walking on the road I saw handicap boy was carrying full of water bucket. Then I realized how come I can get tired with strong body.
• When I remembered farmers slog under hot sun. Then how come I get tired with all facilities in life.
• When I see old man pushing cart for earning few rupees. I am too young to get tired then how come I allow that tiredness.
• The most inspirational Nature’s creation ‘Trees’ they never get tired standing in all seasons. Then how come I?

It’s true that human body needs rest. But I have work to get my deserving meal J

It hurts me…

My friend Seema was frustrated I asked her the reason. She told me that her daughter’s admission rejected in Gitanjali School for Junior KG just because in the interview she did not say thank you. Even I got irritated by listening to her.
How ridiculous? How can anybody play with somebody’s future just for the stupid reason? And on top of that Seema told me her daughter’s yearly fees is 1 lakh. Then I was really shocked.
What kind of business is it? These schools are taking interview for the junior KG admission but what for? If a kid knows everything then why the hell we need schools?
I am strongly against of this system which leads nowhere. If schools basic principles are not right, if school is doing business then I don’t think so they can create bright future of children.
Every child is unique. School is the most beautiful place in child’s life. Where s/he can learn, play, dance, sing poems, hear stories, talk and hold teacher’s hand.

How will child survive here? In this world, will s/he loose his/her own identity? Will s/he able to find his/her in born talent?

Are we so irresponsible…?

My friend narrated one incident and that incident stirred my feelings. On Thursday evening, my friend (female) and three (male) colleagues were coming in cab from STC. The cab driver is expert in controlling the car. Near airport, in crowded place cab driver was on full speed, the bus in front of the cab was showing left indicator but driver was in his mood. And suddenly, he changed his side but hardly bothered about back side traffic. A person who was driving scooter right side did not know what is all happening. And that scooter hit the car in such a way that scooter driver fall down on that heavy traffic road.
Cab driver did not stop due to the fear of police and job. After some time Cab driver said ‘Sahab vo abhi tak mar gaya honga’.( Sir, he would have died.) Nobody could dare to say anything because it was horrible accident.
That night she was telling me all the details. I just asked her’ Did you call 108 for help?’
She nodded and said ‘No’. I was restless.
Next day I asked her ‘Did you complain to Corporate Service desk about the driver?’ She gave me all reasons. Which I did not bothered. I wanted to know the cab service request number but those fellows did not give us the information. I was surprised by their behavior. Nobody took any action about the incident.
Cab driver made a mistake and somebody else paid for it. If tomorrow he will the same mistake, may be you have to pay for that.
Are we so dumb, cant we do anything about the situation. Aren’t they human being to face the situation?

ICICI lost one customer…

28th February 08, I applied for a personal loan to ICICI bank. I am holding an account with ICICI since three years. For them I was ready customer for loan without any efforts. One marketing executive (Varun) collected all the required documents from me. And he gave me assurance that I will receive loan amount in 8 days. I called after 10 days, he assured me that I will get loan amount within 2 days. After 2 days I called up he did not answer my phone call. Next day again I called up he answered my phone call saying that he was busy with some training, and he said I will get loan amount tomorrow in the evening. Again I did follow ups and somebody else answered to my phone and said he met with an accident so did not come to office.

I was upset because it was almost 25 days. I did not get any confirmation from the bank.
Very next day I visited ICICI bank. I complained to Bank Manager but he said I do not handle loan issues, go and talk to Omkar. It was the height for my frustration but I made myself relaxed. And I talked to Omkar he said ‘Mam your loan has been cancelled due to verification reason.’ I wanted to blast at them but nobody wanted to listen to me. At least they would have informed me about the status, might I would have done some other arrangements.

Then I applied to HSBC bank. And within 3 days I received SMS saying that bank has approved my loan amount.

I felt bad because I am holding account over there and I got loan from some other bank.
Though the bank is good but one experience changed my perceptions of ICICI bank. I felt very bad for ICICI bank. Though the business is very strong but we need smart people to handle it.

And for my surprise when I went to get some document signed from ICICI bank, Varun was there and he did not recognize me.

Whose mistake it is and who is suffering from it…

Now days the weather of Hyderabad is awesome. So I decide to go to Necklace Road.
I was seating on a bench and enjoying the scenery. Two people were coming towards me, before I could realized they started asking money. When I looked at them they were human being, male but in female’s dress. I was looking at him he was looking wonderful. He was like us only. I smiled and asked ‘Why do you ask money? You have hands and feet then why do not you earn your bread and butter?’ his straight answer to me ‘Didi (Sister) society did not accept people like us therefore we have to ask money in this way.’ And he asked money one more time to me. With a smile on my face I said ‘I do not have money.’
He smile back and said ‘Didi the way you smile and said, we just want to see smile on faces.’ (Hindi – Didi koi baat nahi hum to insaniyat ke muskurahat ke diwaane hain, shukriya!) And they left me in thousands of thoughts.
I do not know I have seen people doing social work for street children, for beggars, for women, for handicap people, for farmer, for mentally challenged and what not…
But I never heard something doing for such people. I never had seen any body helping them.
I have seen people being afraid of them. I have seen the faces the ordinary people make when they appear in public.
I just wonder whose mistake it is and who is suffering from it…

we forget to explore NEW things

Everybody dreams . . .

If it happens to ask software developer what is their dream company they will say ‘GOOGLE’.

In the morning it happens and one of my friends asked me, ‘Where are you? I have not seen you on orkut.’ And I started thinking.

How people are run behind the knowing things. They hardly get time to explore the new things. Now a day I hardly seat on orkut. I started searching the new utilities of the Google have provided.

Google has changed the Internet world. They have provided the world class service to the users. I have a Gmail account and I get all the Google services.

In a trial and error I have created my Blog which I am going to make it my best Book of life. It is going to help me to express my ideas. So that other can give feedback on it.

To grow in your life you need feedback. It is just marketing where you are representing yourself.

I realized one thing the difference between Book and Diary. Diary is where you can not think twice while writing in it. Because you know on one is going to read it.

But Book is the one thing where you need to think twice because somebody else is going to read it. You have to revise your entire context before putting others.

And is not it challenging?

Lot of things to do and to learn . . .
Life is very short to crib and curse, very short to LEARN.
Learn as new things as possible. Be a rich person by knowledge…

Savita

WHY WORL'S NEED ME?

(Its just a sharing what I felt about the speeches. Because rest of the culture is not that I wanted to discuss. The speeches were excellent.)

"Why world needs me?" was the topic of this GC. When the speakers were delivering their speeches I was listening very carefully. Every one shared my parents, my family, my children, my society, my friends needs me.

They are ready to die for their friends. They are ready to create empire where they could give the jobs for the people. They are ready to give their best so that the family, friends will feel proud.

But still I was not convinced with all. whatever I was searching that I did not find anyone's speech.

While in the night I was revising every ones speech but I could see any depth in the speeches. I could not hear the bottom line of this topic. I was restless through out the night.

In the morning also I was thinking about this topic. And I shared with one of my best Chrysalian friend. And she also replied the same.

When we say "Why world needs me?" and we have learned there are two world in our life the inner world and outer world. If my inner world is happy then I will reflect happiness outside. The inner world is nothing but the sacred space which belongs to only me. Inner world Vs. Out side world. If I can do best to make someone happy then it's my first responsibility to make myself happy. Because if I am not happy then how can I think other's happiness.

If I am strong from inside then I can face any challenge. Then I will not have any doubts for anything.

I should give some time to myself so that I can introspect.

I should take the pause and look behind what I left for others.

When I leave someone what memory I am living behind. How am I behaved with that person? Analyzing myself I required knowing my inner world first.

To be happy, strong, confident, healthy, committed, sincere, loyal, honest for all I NEED TO KNOW MY INNER WORLD FIRST.

For the outside world they will have options but my inner world don't have any option other than me.

And I think therefore first my INNER world needs me.

Small Sharing

When I am in any such situation I used to think in this way.

A boy he played the Cricket and he felt so hungry. He becomes restless. He could not understand what he should do?

He ran home. While going home he was thinking that 'Mamma must have made something special for him'. Since morning he was playing. So mammy should understand his condition.

In hurry he went home. But at home on one was there. He searched in the kitchen room. He could not get food. And he did not have the enough money to spend on food.

It was peak for poor chap.

Now he trapped in that situation? What he should do?

Feeding his stomach is whose responsibility?

Ask yourself. And you will get the answer.

There are the two options –

One is to wait for Mammy. She will make something for him.

Another is "To cook food for himself".

There is possibility that Mammy will come early. But chances are very high that she may be late. And he will starve and will get hungrier. Become more restless.

End up with no hope.

And in another solution may be he will fail while cooking food for himself. But will learn how not to cook the food next time. And there are high chances to fulfill his hunger.

Now you have to decide what you want to do?

Where you want to see yourself?